This is Doris Pollas, the cofounder of the organisation now known as lgbt+ Denmark which by being founded in 1948 is one of the oldest if not the oldest queer organisation in the world.
Doris lived in a farm in Jutland as a child. She was always butch and figured out she was a lesbian in her teens. When she heard about a club in copenhagen where boys kissed boys and girls kissed girls she went just some months after and it was through that club she started a paper connecting queer people all up to seventies and co founded lgbt+ Denmark.
She is now 97 year and wishes for every queer person to have an as loving and accepting family as she did.
I don’t see a lot of older gays from my country, so learning about Doris, a masc lesbian, was really nice.
I do agree with this, but please also be aware that it’s OK to not love people. You are allowed to care deeply about people, but not love them. You are also allowed to feel love for others but not share it for fear of them misunderstanding your intent.
- you enjoy the idea of sex but don’t want to experience it in real life
- you have sexual fantasies but would never want to be IN THEM and the fantasies don’t involve you
- you enjoy reading erotica/ smut fanfics
- - you enjoy absorbing sexual content but it’s never about yourself
- - you like reading smut in third person but find first person to be a huge turn off. And second person is literally The Worst
- you daydream about sexual situations but the people in the daydreams aren’t yourself (or typically even other real people- but your OCs or fictional characters)
- you find yourself looking at attractive people thinking “yeah they’re hot but I don’t want to DO ANYTHING with them”
- imagining the sensory experience of sex makes you question whether it could really feel good as good as it is in your mind
-writing sex scenes is a lot more uncomfortable reading them, even if creating them in your mind is cool
A few years ago there was a person who had cultivated an entire list of acespec identities and lists of common traits. I can no longer find those traits or posts.
SO! This I made this! I’d love for other aego people to add on! And then to add your ideas to the original post.
Someone is probably gonna tell me that I’m being all high and mighty or whatever but I think that arophobia mainly comes from alloro people’s fears regarding being alone and they project them onto us. We aren’t the norm.
Like I truly feel for people who are afraid of that, aros aren’t even immune to it. We’ve been raised in an amatonormative society that drills into our heads the completely false narrative that we need a romantic partner.
But I think more people need to consider that before they speak or type and realize that we are ALL affected by it, aspecs and allos alike, and that maybe that weird, arophobic thing they were about to say might just stem from a discomfort in them that was planted by a society that has handed us a checklist that says “if you don’t do these things in this order by this time then you’ve failed”.
The checklist is bullshit. None of us have “failed”. And the arospec person you wanted to direct that hate towards is not at fault.
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